For you ladies (and men) out there who want to know how to motivate your man, here are some great ways. This is coming from me, a guy’s perspective. While these may not be effective for every man, from my point of view and from talking with my other guy friends about relationships, I think they will work for most guys.
1 – Suggest Don’t Demand
Many people, not just guys, don’t like when someone demands something of them. It can make a guy feel less than adequate and that is not what you want to do. When you want to motivate a guy, suggest something instead of demanding. Also avoid saying “You should…” Instead suggest in question form. “Do you think maybe this would work?” Doing this empowers your man to decide.
2 – Motivate Your Man By Using Examples
If you want to motivate your boyfriend or motivate your husband to be better in someway or to do something, give examples. But you have to do it indirectly. Guys love being your champion. They love being the one you look up to. So when you say something like, “wow I like how dedicated (such and such) is to (whatever)” Your man will want to BE that dedicated too. When you say something like, “The Rock (Dwayne Johnson) really works out hard and takes care of his body”, your man will want to be like the Rock. Use your judgement on how subtle you do this. You may have to get creative if your man has a tendency to get jealous easily.
3 – Compliment To Motivate Your Man
Men love getting compliments. It makes them feel like Kings. Use this to your advantage. Say things like, “Baby I love how you look when you are doing yard work.” Or “You look so sexy to me when you are vacuuming or playing with the kids.”
4 – Reward Them
I’m an independent man but I love when my wife does things for me. I really appreciate the little things because it makes me feel like I’m still special to her and that someone loves me and wants to care for me. I’m sure your man feels the same way. Go the extra mile when they do something. Especially if it’s something that you want them to keep doing. It doesn’t have to be expensive gifts, sometimes even small gestures such as a hug or a kiss for doing things will motivate them to do more of it.
5 – Show Appreciation
Just as you need appreciation, your man needs it as well. Men can hide their emotions, needs, and desires well. It’s a macho thing to do. But they do like to feel appreciated and needed. Make sure you appreciate the little things, and thank him for things that no one ever really thanks him for. This morning as I was leaving for work I told my wife how much I appreciated all the little things she does around the house. I told her I appreciated her for being a great wife and mom. Guys need that too sometimes. Out of the blue tell your man how you appreciate them for being a good father, or for helping out on that project. It will encourage and motivate your man to be a better person all the way around.
If you are looking for ways to motivate your man, these 5 strategies are very effective. Give them a try and let me know how it’s working for you.
Do you have any suggestions on how to motivate your man? Let us know in the comments below.